Control anger as it rises, stay centred

You may remind yourself a hundred times that you should not get angry, but when the emotion comes, you are unable to control it. It comes like a thunderstorm. Emotions are much more powerful than your thoughts.
Control anger as it rises, stay centred
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What can you do when anger rises in you? Anger is a distortion of your true nature and it does not allow the self to shine forth fully. In human consciousness, mind and life, all the negativities and vices are only on the periphery. Your true nature is peace and love. Showing anger itself is not wrong, but being unaware of your anger only hurts you. Sometimes you can show anger purposefully. For example, a mother can act tough or shout at her children if they put themselves in danger. There are situations that warrant showing anger, but when you get angry, you are shaken completely. But if you are completely aware and are acting angry, that is fine. 
Being in the present moment 
All anger is about something which has already happened. The mind always vacillates between the past and the future. But anger is meaningless as we cannot alter the past. And when the mind is in the future, it is anxious about something that may or may not happen. When the mind is in the present moment, anxiousness and anger appear so meaningless. Spiritual practices help you remain centered and not be shaken by small events. This is where a little knowledge about yourself helps. It is when you are exhausted and stressed that you lose your nature and get angry. Every individual is bestowed with all the virtues in the world. They simply get covered by a lack of understanding and stress. What is needed is just to uncover the virtues that are already there.
Breath control 
Breathing techniques and meditation are very effective in calming the mind. Learning something about our breath is very important. Our breath has a great lesson to teach us, which we have forgotten. For every rhythm in the mind, there is a corresponding rhythm in the breath and for every rhythm in the breath, there is a corresponding emotion. So, when you cannot handle your mind directly, you can handle it through breath. Meditation is letting go of anger from the past and the events of the past. Meditation is accepting this moment and living every moment totally with depth. 
Often, anger comes because you do not accept the present moment. Anger comes when one seeks too much of perfection. When you are joyful, you don’t look for perfection. If you are always looking for perfection then you are not at the source of joy. The world appears imperfect on the surface but, underneath, all is perfect. Perfection hides; imperfection shows off. The wise will not remain merely on the surface, but will probe into the depth. Things are not blurred; your vision is blurred. Infinite actions prevail in the wholeness of consciousness, and yet the consciousness remains perfect, untouched. Realise this now and be natural. 
The writer is the founder of Art of Living Foundation and can be reached www.artofliving.org

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