The stepping stones to have a successful life

Everybody focusses on success, but for human beings this focus isn’t natural.

It starts only when one takes responsibility for something. A child born on this beautiful planet doesn’t immediately talk about being successful. It is happy and by nature grows because of four factors; nutritious food and water, activity it is involved in, an environment free of pollution and contamination and above all the acceptance and love from fellow beings. When these factors are in right ratio, life is filled with happiness.

One doesn’t think ‘what next’.

The word success comes when one is involved in something and self-effort is required to achieve what one wants.

In reality, it is nature that good things don’t survive without the bad. The acceptance of good energy is possible only when the elimination of bad energy is to its fullest. When the body is healthy, this process happens by itself. To make it happen for the mind, we need to follow three simple principals.

1 De-clutter: To keep the body healthy, we need to eliminate toxins and to keep the mind healthy we need to eliminate unwanted thoughts and bad reference of the past. This is called de-clutter. De-clutter is the effort taken to remove unwanted reference and unwanted perception about a person or situation before we involve in action.

E.g. before a meeting, ask yourself “Am I happy with this meeting and people I am associating with”, if not, ask yourself why and remove the reason of unhappiness. When there isn’t bad reference, take effort to create a positive reference about the people and the situation before getting into action. This is called as de-clutter.

As we remove the unwanted stuff from the table to keep it clean every day, same must happen with the mind.

How does one de-clutter? De-cluttering is a natural happening when one understands the science of holding positive psychology.

2 Clear vision on end-result: It could be education or a career shift or something small like a vacation; whatever one does, one should have a clear vision of the end-result; not what you want to achieve, but what you want to experience.

Happiness isn’t only getting what one wants as the end-result but enjoying the journey towards that end-result.

Despite having good habits, the possibility of going through bad experience is very high when one doesn’t have an end-result. Because without end-result having good habits is just a routine. With focus on end-result the action one involves in isn’t an unconscious habit, it is a conscious effort taken to facilitate the end-result.

This is called discipline.

E.g. A person who exercises regularly without focus on the end-result may meet with an accident, fall sick and gain some weight. However, a person exercising with optimal weight as

an end-result; now his actions aren’t just actions they are with the end-result in mind.

Focus on end-result automatically puts a person in discipline.

Otherwise good habits simply remain a routine, not a discipline.

When a person functions out of discipline, anything that does not facilitate the end-result is automatically avoided by the mind. One doesn’t need to be told not to smoke, drink or eat fatty foods when his focus is on the end-result of good health. He automatically avoids anything that doesn’t facilitate his end-result. Discipline isn’t only doing what is right, it is also effortlessly avoiding what isn’t. Above all, discipline with focus on end-result helps one take immediate and instant corrective action.

3 Humour in communication: It is impossible that everyone have the same behaviour. The joy of living as human beings is because each human being is different. We have different perceptions, different pasts and work towards different futures.

We need positive associations when working together and that’s possible only when there is effort to have humour in communication.

Talking only about required action and instructions when involved in work; one may not gel with the other person.

But taking self-effort to bring humour makes two people involved to share their talent more easily and happily. Above all, it facilitates acceptance of differences between people.

It may sound simple, but it requires self-effort to bring humour into communication.

This self-effort is worthier than you think, it is ineffable but very effective. One who maintains the habit of humour in communication is open to the magic called criticism. Because the only thing that disturbs focus on the end-result is when you are affected by criticism.

But you cannot avoid criticism.De-clutter, Focus on End-Result, Discipline and finally Humour help one face criticism as a positive feedback and one can progress in every aspect of life.

Wishing you a life of Peace, Success and Happiness.

Aham Brahmasmi!!