Seek a life of affection, not satisfaction

Human beings live their lives out of satisfaction, not purpose. All motivational words like purpose, vision, mission etc. exist only because of the human need to be accepted and for attention from others. But the truth is from the time a human being is delivered, he or she needs satisfaction!

A lion can never be exploited or spoilt to crave grilled chicken, nor will a goat crave French fries! They aren’t addicted to any taste because by nature they live out of need, but humans live out of satisfaction. Even if a child is fed healthy food, the brain will not give it higher importance and understanding that it is healthy. Instead it would seek a chocolate that gives pleasure to the sense and feels satisfied once that pleasure is complete.

This remains the same until the last moment of one’s breath unless one realises that by nature ‘if you fail to seek God within yourself, your mind will only seek pleasure’ and lose all the pleasure and comfort. Satisfaction means getting things the way one wants and searching for satisfaction is the basic quality of human beings and their source of peace.

But every moment cannot be under our control. When things do not go according to our choice, we say we aren’t happy or we’re disturbed or depressed; meaning, we cannot continue with a satisfied life.

But life is beyond that. Life is full of unexpected and unexperienced moments and every next moment is a surprise waiting. The situations one had earlier won’t remain the same. You are going to be exposed to situations that you have never handled before.

But the problem isn’t that, any unknown or unexpected situation one feels he or she isn’t able to handle makes one experience anger or rage where one loses control over oneself because he or she is trying to control the situation. This is never going to happen.

Satisfaction isn’t possible all the time. However, even without satisfaction it is still possible to live in peace by not trying to control the situation but by taking control over the self.

The Vedas and Sharira Dharma convey this profound knowledge in a simple way: ‘During a storm don’t try to calm the storm, instead try to calm the self’ — this is the best way to handle the storm.

To have the ability to calm the self, one should know how to reach the state of stillness, which is achieved only through Atma-Dhyana or meditation. The stillness one experiences in meditation isn’t the stillness of body and mind, it is the ultimate universal stillness. In that stillness, ‘no other power is never more powerful than you’.

And above all, one who experiences stillness of the self in meditation experiences a beautiful shift in relationships.

One does not seek perfection in relationships, instead they live a life out of affection. With affection in relationships one is happy even in imperfect situations. It is impossible to find affection in relationships through perfection, but with meditation you will find affection in every relationship. Because meditation is experiencing affection with God.

Wishing you a life of Peace, Success and Happiness. Aham Brahmasmi!!