Divine secrets for happy and successful relationships

A term one commonly hears is ‘conflict-free world’. But ‘your world is nothing but the people you relate to’. Conflict-free relationships are the only source for a conflict-free world!! It is unfortunate then that 7 of 10 people suffer with relationship problems causing them unhappiness, stress and frustration. Happiness in relationships is the very essential need for a human being to live in peace and to progress in life. 

Today I shall discuss the essential tools to have happiness in relationships forever. 

Self-respect: In a relationship what a person needs more than love, sweet words and caring is self-respect. Being a human, one cannot live without committing a mistake. When there is a mistake and a conflict arising out of it, it is an opportunity for a person to show their love by making their loved ones feel valued even in such a situation. 

Vedas say that real love is accepting the person despite their mistakes. Vedas further insist that forgiveness is the fundamental guideline for happy existence in a marital relationship. One may never forget an incident, but one can forgive what has happened in the past that could disturb the present. Forgiving your loved one is the highest self-respect one can show in a relationship. Because ‘love is possible without forgiveness, but forgiveness is impossible without love’. 

One has to understand that they can never understand their spouse. Unless you understand that you can never understand your spouse, instead of acceptance you will waste time in analysis. And every problem in relationships is due to judgement based on analysis of a person’s past and present behaviour. One can never find peace and happiness in relationships with this approach.

The real qualities of love are self-respect, forgiveness, and acceptance. With this discipline in relationships everyone you are related to will have great love and respect for you because you have made them feel more valuable by accepting the person without expectation. Now conflict is no more a possibility. 

Finally, what makes a phenomenal difference is the realisation that every relationship is simple and beautiful, but we make it complex and complicated. We often say, ‘I don’t know how to handle my spouse, or parent or children’. This means you don’t know how to live, because they are your world. Every relationship can be simple and beautiful only when you realise that your relationships are nothing but reflections of the self. When you have a good relationship with yourself, every other relationship in life is happy and beautiful!! 

Wishing you a life of happy and successful relationships forever.

Aham Brahmasmi!!