In love, there are no compromises

However, we think love has to be associated with a good experience. Love and a good experience are different. You may love someone dearly, but it is not necessary that the experience with that person is also good. 

How is it that when there is love, there is a possibility of an unpleasant experience or of suffering? The cause is compromise. 

In love there are no compromises, if there is a compromise that is not love, it is an interest or fondness. Where there is love, compromise is not possible and where there is a compromise, love is not possible. 

The assumption that in love compromise is necessary, is wrong. A compromise today is the reason for a complaint tomorrow. Think of a construction, the utmost importance is given to the foundation. You can never compromise on the foundation because this is laying the foundation for an insecurity or failure in the future. Any suffering starts with a fundamental reality; there has been a compromise in the past. When you feel you have made a mistake, think back, in reality what has happened is a compromise. 

Think of a simple example, everyone has a favorite garment, maybe a shirt or a saree. And you take extra care of it. You do not compromise on maintaining it. Here there is no love in return, but because you have a special liking for it, you do not compromise in taking care of it. 

In life too, to make sure there is no complaint and suffering in the future, you need to make sure you do not compromise in your life today. And to make sure there is no possibility of a compromise, make sure you love yourself first. When you truly love yourself, you will never compromise with yourself. 

Self-love is not just necessary but the fundamental need for a happy existence. Self-love is the highest contribution to the divine because it eliminates the possibility of a compromise towards yourself and therefore there can be no complaint or suffering in the present or in the future. What you are left with now isn’t just love but also a beautiful experience in love. 

Attempting to love others or share your love with others is good, but it is a mistake to do so without loving yourself. Love for the self isn’t selfishness or self centeredness, it is your own contribution to the self and therefore the divine. 

Wishing you a life of love, peace and prosperity. Aham Brahmasmi!!