‘Accept the unexpected for a happy relationship’

The fact is, it’s ‘truly possible’ to have happiness in every relationship and a life filled with joy, abundance and peace. Only with this conviction can we also dream of a boundary-less world full of peace and harmony where we don’t need festivals to celebrate relationships, rather everyday be a celebration. 

It’s needless to emphasise the importance of constantly creating happiness in every human relationship. Rather than discussing the reasons for conflict in relationships, I decide to insist on creating happiness in relationships and an approach that will solve existing conflicts and never create new ones. 

Every one of us has an expiry date with no time to waste and no nobler aim than utilising our ‘validity period’ to create happiness for ourselves and others. 

Psychiatrists, doctors & philosophers have convinced the world that ‘difference’ is the root cause for conflict. In reality, it’s not the difference; it’s the non-acceptance of the difference between two individuals which creates conflict in relationships. 

This is known as the ‘Like-Like’ syndrome. We expect our loved ones to behave and be exactly like we are, which is simply impossible. One should learn to enjoy the difference and accept the unexpected to create a happy and conflict-free relationship. 

How do we eliminate conflict? First and foremost, by paying attention to our loved ones. Making them feel that you are there for them, no matter what. Next, showing total acceptance. The assurance that come what may, they are always important in your life. Even if you need to correct a mistake, your loved ones will now be accepting to change. 

People who like us need not be like us, so accept them as they are. Just for one simple reason that life would be life-less without them. We need our loved ones through the good and bad times, to fight with us, we need them to cry and scream at us, we need them to hug and bug us, and finally we need them to have us believe that we are more valuable than what we think ourselves to be. 

A great relationship is not about getting the right person, it’s being the right person’! Aham Brahmasmi!