Although this parenting style seems harmless, it’s just the beginning of the problem. Children begin to question their own abilities. They start to trust the voices outside their head rather than their inner-voice. So, if you’re adapting to the same parenting style, it’s time to change. Here are some signs of overparenting and tips to work through them.
You forbid activities that scare you
Parents often mistake their child’s vulnerability for fragility. But in order for children to learn increasing independence and gain self-confidence, parents should let their child try age-appropriate activities. Adolescence is a tricky ground for parents. Taking calculated risks is necessary preparation for post-childhood life. Freedom should be granted based on a child’s demonstrated responsibility and accountability.
You panic too much
Parents panic because they react to one snapshot as if it’s the epic movie of their child’s life. And to some parents, one bad grade conjures images of their child being forever behind the pack. Instead of critiquing everyday marks, appreciate your child’s hard work. It reinforces skills and habits that lead to success.
You do everything for your child
You carry their school bag, you shuttle them here and there, you are their personal stylist, cook and cleaner. As children get older, let them do things for themselves. Abstain from doing everything for them and let them gain competence in ordinary work.
You compare your kids with others
Social media is a perfect platform for the brag alert from parents who publish their child’s accomplishments and it’s easy for parents to react to others’ highlights reel. Avoid thinking your child is in some sort of race or competition with other kids. Don’t react as if your child has no prospects for their future — it simply isn’t the case.